แสดงบทความที่มีป้ายกำกับ Wedding แสดงบทความทั้งหมด
แสดงบทความที่มีป้ายกำกับ Wedding แสดงบทความทั้งหมด

วันอาทิตย์ที่ 25 ธันวาคม พ.ศ. 2554

Picking the Church for Your Wedding

Picking the Church for Your Wedding

It might sound strange, but for some couples, choosing the right church for their marriage ceremony can be a challenge. They might come from distinct religious backgrounds and need to come to a compromise. It could be that neither is a quarterly church-goer, but they would like to tie the knot in a house of worship. Or it could be that both the bride and groom grew up in their particular church, and neither can dream getting married in any place else. These are some tips on how to come together as a consolidate to pick the church for your wedding.

In some ways the easiest scenario is when neither the bride or groom has ties to any exact church, but wish to get married in one. It is less a matter of compromise, and more of practicality. A good place to begin is by attending services at the churches in your area which are your denomination. If neither the bride or groom have a particular religious affiliation, they can look into community or non-denominational churches. Once you have found a church which feels comfortable, keep in mind that you may need to join to be able to get married there. If you are a Catholic, begin this process early, as even after joining the parish, you will still have a needful number of marriage preparing courses and counseling ahead of you. Keep in mind that some churches are able to be more flexible about the ceremony time, so if you have your heart set on a four o'clock wedding on a Saturday afternoon, make sure that the church does not have a quarterly assistance every week at 5pm.

More attractive is when the bride and groom belong to distinct denominations. Although the differences are at times minor, if you always imagined yourself being married in the Methodist church wearing a long white gown with a flowing veil and pearl necklace, it might be hard to say your "I dos" at the Presbyterian church over the street. In some instances, a great explication to this qoute can be to hold the ceremony at a more neutral church, such as your college chapel. Most campus ministers will be willing to work with the bride and groom to develop a ceremony which respects both of their religious backgrounds. If the two of you were college sweethearts, it is also well meaningful to hold your ceremony on campus. When a college chapel is not an option, the consolidate can take turns attending each other's churches to find the one where both can feel most comfortable. If no compromise is reached this way, you can always revert to tradition, which says that the wedding is held in the bride's church (sorry, grooms).

The biggest struggles can come when the bride and groom both have attended their respective churches for a long time, especially if the ties go back generations. The bride might have always imagined getting married in the same church where her mom and dad did, perhaps even wearing the same pearl necklace. Problems can occur when the groom's family has also attended his church for generations, and maybe his mom and dad were married there. Even if the churches are the same denomination, the bride and groom will plainly have special feelings about their own church, pastor, congregation, and family ties. A heart-to-heart talk is by all means; of course in order in the middle of the bride and groom. They may also wish to talk the matter over with their ministers. One good selection could be to hold the wedding in the bride's church with the groom's clergyman co-officiating. They might even reconsider holding a special blessing at the groom's church at a later date for immediate family.

In the end, preparing for marriage may entail compromises just like any good marriage does. When the bride and groom are torn in the middle of two churches, it can be a very emotional selection to make, but sooner or later they will have to come to an business agreement that both can live with. With the first major hurdle managed, the bride and groom will be ready to continue attractive forward construction a life together.

Picking the Church for Your Wedding

วันอาทิตย์ที่ 11 ธันวาคม พ.ศ. 2554

Jewish Wedding Heritage, Customs and Traditions, along with the Ketubah, Chupah, Breaking Glass

Jewish Tradition

Ever wondered about the Chuppah, Ketuba, and other Jewish wedding customs?

Tallit

Jewish tradition does not considers the wedding ceremony and the ensuing marriage as a mere public arrangement or contractual agreement, but as a full commitment to "sanctification" or "dedication." The Hebrew word kiddushin, stems from the word kadosh meaning holy. It indicates that what is happening is a holy spiritual bonding and that as of the wedding ceremony and throughout their lives, the combine have an exclusive relationship, that involves perfect dedication to each other.

Engagement

When a Jewish couple, gets engaged to be married, the families usually announce the opening and the wedding date with an engagement party. There is an almost un-heard of ritual performed by the bride's and groom's mothers to emphasize the seriousness of the commitment of the man and the woman who formally announced their plan to marry. It is, the act of breaking a ceramic plate. Customarily, the bride's mom and the groom's mother, drop the well wrapped plate onto a hard surface. Breaking the plate indicates that just as breaking the plate is final, so too the engagement is final, not to be terminated.

It is customary, though not oftentimes practiced, that at that time of the engagement party, the families sign a contract, that declares the obligations of each side about the wedding. In the more former Jewish Circles, the bride and groom stop finding each other, one week before the wedding. This, in order to have them miss each other. Thus, improving the joy of finding each other at their wedding.If the ketubah is lost, a new one must be written.

Before the wedding

It is former that on the Shabbat morning before the wedding, the groom is honored by being called up to the reading of the Torah in the synagogue or temple. After he recites the last blessing, members of the congregation throw candies and raisins at him to wish him a sweet life with his wife. Tradition calls for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding, until after the ceremony. Though the fancy given is so they purify their souls, the actual benefit is that though they may be nervous, neither will suffer a queezy stomach.

Witnesses

One of the most necessary elements of the legal aspect of a Jewish wedding is the nearnessy of witnesses. Allowable witnesses are needed to observe the signing of all documents and contracts, the actual ceremony when the groom places the ring on his brides finger and recites the prescribed statement, and when the bride and groom now Mr, and Mrs. Enter the celebration - reception.

Ketuba

The first thing usually done by the groom upon arrival, is the completion, signing and witnessing of the Ketubah - marriage contract. The authentic text of the Ketubah is the text written by Simeon ben Shetach in 80 B.C.E. And is in Aramaic, the language used by Jews while that period. Thus, historically, the ketubah marked a great leap send in the thinking about the proprietary of women. You may call this covenant an aged pre-nuptial trade since it details not only the husband's obligations to his wife about food, clothing, shelter and pleasure, it also creates a lien on all his asset to pay her a sum of money and support, should he disjunction her.

The document is signed by the groom and witnessed by two people. It has the standing of a legally binding agreement, that in many countries is enforceable by secular law. If the ketubah is lost, a new one must be written. Like all else, Ketubot (plural) have evolved in their form. In all but Orthodox Judaism The Ketuba can be presented in the former Arameic, Hebrew and - or English and both bride and groom can commit and sign. However, they still need two witnesses. The Ketubah is a document of the top significance yet, appropriate out history, it was proudly and prominently framed it and displayed in the home. Hence, since at least the fourteenth century, the Ketubah has evolved into a fabulous form of art. It is often calligraphed on an illuminated and illustrated manuscript that becomes a treasured family heirloom, to pass on to the following generations.

Unveiling the bride

After the signing of the Ketubah, light snacks and some hard liquor for the Lechayim - To Life, are served. Remember the "To life - Lechayim," scene from the Fiddler on the Roof? In Orthodox Jewish weddings, while this time, in other room, the bride sits like a queen*, on a throne-like, especially decorated chair. She is surrounded by her family and friends, receiving her guests. Following the Lechayim, the groom together with his father and future father-in-law, musicians and male guests walks over to his bride, whom he has not seen for a week and covers her face with her veil. This ceremony is so the groom identifies his bride before the wedding. If Jacob did so, he would not have been conned to marry Leah instead of his favorite Rachel.

*In Jewish tradition, a bride and groom are akin to king and queen and sit on chairs that are very decorated to look like thrones. It is a Mitzvah - commandment and an obligation, to cause the bride and groom to rejoice. This is why in many Jewish wedding celebrations the bride and groom are lifted on their extra chairs, by their friends who sing and dance with joy. The best way to rejoice with the bride and groom is to express your joy, love and best wishes.

Chuppah

The actual Jewish wedding ceremony is conducted under a Chuppah or canopy. The chuppah, which is whether a tallit - prayer shawl, or a decorated* square of cloth held up by four poles, symbolizes the new home being created by the couple. It is open on all sides, just as Abraham and Sarah had their tent open all sides to welcome friends and relatives in unconditional hospitality. It is former for the bride and groom to honor four of their best friends and - or siblings ro hold the poles while the ceremony. This adds love, warmth and intimacy to the ceremony. The bride and groom stand under the chuppah while the ceremony, with the bride to the right of the groom. Traditionally, Jewish wedding ceremonies were held out doors under the stars as a reminder of God's blessing, bestowed upon Abraham that his children shall be will be as numerous "as the stars of the heavens."

In Orthodox Jewish weddings that separate men from women, the groom is led to the chuppah by the 2 fathers or other 2 male relatives, while the bride is led by the mothers. In Conservative and Reform - less restrictive Jewish weddings, the groom is accompanied to the chuppah by his parents and the bride is accompanied to the chuppah by her parents.

Under the chuppah, the Rabbi recites the marriage blessings and a blessing over wine, and then a blessing that praises and thanks God for giving us laws of sanctity and morality to withhold the sanctity of family life and of the Jewish people. Both the bride and the groom then drink from the wine.

But instead of creating a quilt, create a chuppah.

Circling the groom

Traditionally, though it is not obligatory that the bride alone or with both her mom and the mom of the groom circle the groom. That is go around and around him. Because the number 7 is so necessary in Judaism 7 circlings have come to be the norm. The most gorgeous explanation is that in circling him 7 times, the bride enters the 7 spheres of her beloved´s souls.

The Wedding Ring

The groom, now takes a plain solid gold ring and places it on the index finger of the bride's right hand and in the nearnessy of two witnesses, recites "Behold you are sanctified to me with this ring, according to the Law of Moses and Israel." The ring symbolizes the conception of the groom encompassing, protecting and providing for his wife. After the ring was settled on the bride's index finger, the Ketubah is read aloud and given to the bride. At this point, the bride can place a ring on the groom's finger. The ring symbolizes the conception of the wholeness of th union and of the groom encompassing, protecting and providing for his wife. The fancy for the solid plain perfect gold ring is three fold.

1. A solid, un-blemished ring represents perfect wholeness in the marriage with no holes or obstacles.

2. The bride and groom should reconsider the marriage and devotion to each other without inspecting wealth.

3. So every groom could afford to buy a ring for his bride.

If the groom is too poor, person from the society would buy it for him, as the ring given to the bride must belong to the groom and no one else. After the ring was settled on the bride's finger, the Ketubah is read aloud and given to the bride.

Seven Blessings

The Rabbi recites seven blessing over a full cup of wine. After this, the combine again share in drinking the cup of wine, and the groom breaks a glass by stamping on it.

Breaking a Glass in Jewish Weddings

This institution puzzles many who seek explanation. Actually, this institution dates back to Talmudic times, to remind us of the destruction of the holy temple in Jerusalem. other interpretation given is that the smashing of the glass is irrevocable and permanent. So too should the marriage be. As the bride and groom bond together, the glass should be the last thing to break, in the middle of them. Yet other interpretation is that uniting a man and a woman and creating a new family is divine. Thus, even at an opening of such great rejoicing, one must take measures to ensure that the celebration remains within bounds of propriety and holiness. After the breaking of the glass the musicians play and the guests shout "Mazal tov! Mazal tov" - Good Luck. When the bride and groom arrive at the reception, as Mr. And Mrs., everyone joins in dancing around the "king and queen."

Jewish Wedding Heritage, Customs and Traditions, along with the Ketubah, Chupah, Breaking Glass

วันเสาร์ที่ 10 ธันวาคม พ.ศ. 2554

Only Sexy Things on Your Skin - The point of a Shawl in Your Wedding

Everybody tuned into the fashion manufactures knows the value of a great shawl. You can transform from a wallflower to an absolute stunner with this uncomplicated piece of clothing that you can wear over your shoulders and even your head. Together with its powers of enhancement, the shawl is also highly adaptable and can be worn in the most formal of settings from high society parties to hanging out with friends on a Friday night, the shawl can be your best friend. Now that you're using it in your wedding, it's best to know just what an remarkable narrative of clothing you're donning.

The first shawls were part of the traditional dress in Achaemenid Persia. They were also a big part of the traditional male garb of Kashmir, maybe because of the strong Persian influence. After being woven in an highly fine woolen twill, some were said to be fine sufficient as to fit straight through a ring. They could be made in one color or some colors, ornately woven or embroidered.

Tallit

Shawls have many purposes and the most basic is to keep the wearer warm, hence shawls have come to be favorite in Western countries. Another prominent function of the shawl is to complement the attire of the wearer. Some use it for symbolic reasons, like the Jewish tallit, which is used in prayer.

Silk shawls with fringes made in China were ready in the first decade of the 19th century. They became favorite in Europe and America. Apart from being prominent accessories for women's clothing they became a thorough folk dress in some places including Germany, the Near East, parts of Latin America and Spain. They became a part of the Spanish gypsy dress and are known as gintanas. Their inclusion in the opera 'Carmen' immortalizes them in global culture.

Today Kashmiri shawls made from pashmina are among the most supreme fashion and society items on the market.

Only Sexy Things on Your Skin - The point of a Shawl in Your Wedding

วันพุธที่ 9 พฤศจิกายน พ.ศ. 2554

Jewish Wedding Heritage, Customs and Traditions, Including the Ketubah, Chupah, Breaking Glass

Jewish Tradition

Ever wondered about the Chuppah, Ketuba, and other Jewish wedding customs?

Tallit

Jewish tradition does not considers the wedding ceremony and the ensuing marriage as a mere social arrangement or contractual agreement, but as a full commitment to "sanctification" or "dedication." The Hebrew word kiddushin, stems from the word kadosh meaning holy. It indicates that what is happening is a holy spiritual bonding and that as of the wedding ceremony and throughout their lives, the couple have an exclusive relationship, that involves complete dedication to each other.

Engagement

When a Jewish couple, gets engaged to be married, the families usually announce the occasion and the wedding date with an engagement party. There is an almost un-heard of ritual performed by the bride's and groom's mothers to emphasize the seriousness of the commitment of the man and the woman who formally announced their plan to marry. It is, the act of breaking a ceramic plate. Customarily, the bride's mother and the groom's mother, drop the well wrapped plate onto a hard surface. Breaking the plate indicates that just as breaking the plate is final, so too the engagement is final, not to be terminated.

It is customary, though not frequently practiced, that at that time of the engagement party, the families sign a contract, that declares the obligations of each side concerning the wedding. In the more traditional Jewish Circles, the bride and groom stop seeing each other, one week before the wedding. This, in order to have them miss each other. Thus, enhancing the joy of seeing each other at their wedding.If the ketubah is lost, a new one must be written.

Before the wedding

It is customary that on the Shabbat morning before the wedding, the groom is honored by being called up to the reading of the Torah in the synagogue or temple. After he recites the last blessing, members of the congregation throw candies and raisins at him to wish him a sweet life with his wife. Tradition calls for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding, until after the ceremony. Though the reason given is so they purify their souls, the actual benefit is that though they may be nervous, neither will suffer a queezy stomach.

Witnesses

One of the most essential elements of the legal aspect of a Jewish wedding is the presence of witnesses. Proper witnesses are needed to observe the signing of all documents and contracts, the actual ceremony when the groom places the ring on his brides finger and recites the prescribed statement, and when the bride and groom now Mr, and Mrs. enter the celebration - reception.

Ketuba

The first thing usually done by the groom upon arrival, is the completion, signing and witnessing of the Ketubah - marriage contract. The authentic text of the Ketubah is the text written by Simeon ben Shetach in 80 B.C.E. and is in Aramaic, the language used by Jews during that period. Thus, historically, the ketubah marked a great leap forward in the thinking about the rights of women. You may call this contract an ancient pre-nuptial agreement since it details not only the husband's obligations to his wife concerning food, clothing, shelter and pleasure, it also creates a lien on all his property to pay her a sum of money and support, should he divorce her.

The document is signed by the groom and witnessed by two people. It has the standing of a legally binding agreement, that in many countries is enforceable by secular law. If the ketubah is lost, a new one must be written. Like everything else, Ketubot (plural) have evolved in their form. In all but Orthodox Judaism The Ketuba can be presented in the traditional Arameic, Hebrew and - or English and both bride and groom can commit and sign. However, they still need two witnesses. The Ketubah is a document of the highest importance yet, thorough out history, it was proudly and prominently framed it and displayed in the home. Hence, since at least the fourteenth century, the Ketubah has evolved into a wonderful form of art. It is often calligraphed on an illuminated and illustrated manuscript that becomes a treasured family heirloom, to pass on to the following generations.

Unveiling the bride

After the signing of the Ketubah, light snacks and some hard liquor for the Lechayim - To Life, are served. Remember the "To life - Lechayim," scene from the Fiddler on the Roof? In Orthodox Jewish weddings, during this time, in another room, the bride sits like a queen*, on a throne-like, especially decorated chair. She is surrounded by her family and friends, receiving her guests. Following the Lechayim, the groom together with his father and future father-in-law, musicians and male guests walks over to his bride, whom he has not seen for a week and covers her face with her veil. This ceremony is so the groom identifies his bride before the wedding. If Jacob did so, he would not have been conned to marry Leah instead of his beloved Rachel.

*In Jewish tradition, a bride and groom are akin to king and queen and sit on chairs that are highly decorated to resemble thrones. It is a Mitzvah - commandment and an obligation, to cause the bride and groom to rejoice. This is why in many Jewish wedding celebrations the bride and groom are lifted on their special chairs, by their friends who sing and dance with joy. The best way to rejoice with the bride and groom is to express your joy, love and best wishes.

Chuppah

The actual Jewish wedding ceremony is conducted under a Chuppah or canopy. The chuppah, which is either a tallit - prayer shawl, or a decorated* square of cloth held up by four poles, symbolizes the new home being created by the couple. It is open on all sides, just as Abraham and Sarah had their tent open all sides to welcome friends and relatives in unconditional hospitality. It is customary for the bride and groom to honor four of their best friends and - or siblings ro hold the poles during the ceremony. This adds love, warmth and intimacy to the ceremony. The bride and groom stand under the chuppah during the ceremony, with the bride to the right of the groom. Traditionally, Jewish wedding ceremonies were held out doors under the stars as a reminder of God's blessing, bestowed upon Abraham that his children shall be will be as numerous "as the stars of the heavens."

In Orthodox Jewish weddings that separate men from women, the groom is led to the chuppah by the 2 fathers or other 2 male relatives, while the bride is led by the mothers. In Conservative and Reform - less restrictive Jewish weddings, the groom is accompanied to the chuppah by his parents and the bride is accompanied to the chuppah by her parents.

Under the chuppah, the Rabbi recites the marriage blessings and a blessing over wine, and then a blessing that praises and thanks God for giving us laws of sanctity and morality to preserve the sanctity of family life and of the Jewish people. Both the bride and the groom then drink from the wine.

But instead of creating a quilt, create a chuppah.

Circling the groom

Traditionally, though it is not obligatory that the bride alone or with both her mother and the mother of the groom circle the groom. That is go around and around him. Because the number 7 is so significant in Judaism 7 circlings have become the norm. The most beautiful explanation is that in circling him 7 times, the bride enters the 7 spheres of her beloved´s souls.

The Wedding Ring

The groom, now takes a plain solid gold ring and places it on the index finger of the bride's right hand and in the presence of two witnesses, recites "Behold you are sanctified to me with this ring, according to the Law of Moses and Israel." The ring symbolizes the concept of the groom encompassing, protecting and providing for his wife. After the ring was placed on the bride's index finger, the Ketubah is read aloud and given to the bride. At this point, the bride can place a ring on the groom's finger. The ring symbolizes the concept of the wholeness of th union and of the groom encompassing, protecting and providing for his wife. The reason for the solid plain unblemished gold ring is three fold.

1. A solid, un-blemished ring represents complete wholeness in the marriage with no holes or obstacles.

2. The bride and groom should consider the marriage and devotion to each other without considering wealth.

3. So every groom could afford to buy a ring for his bride.

If the groom is too poor, someone from the community would buy it for him, as the ring given to the bride must belong to the groom and no one else. After the ring was placed on the bride's finger, the Ketubah is read aloud and given to the bride.

Seven Blessings

The Rabbi recites seven blessing over a full cup of wine. After this, the couple again share in drinking the cup of wine, and the groom breaks a glass by stamping on it.

Breaking a Glass in Jewish Weddings

This custom puzzles many who seek explanation. Actually, this custom dates back to Talmudic times, to remind us of the destruction of the holy temple in Jerusalem. Another interpretation given is that the smashing of the glass is irrevocable and permanent. So too should the marriage be. As the bride and groom bond together, the glass should be the last thing to break, between them. Yet another interpretation is that uniting a man and a woman and creating a new family is divine. Thus, even at an occasion of such great rejoicing, one must take measures to ensure that the celebration remains within bounds of propriety and holiness. After the breaking of the glass the musicians play and the guests shout "Mazal tov! Mazal tov" - Good Luck. When the bride and groom arrive at the reception, as Mr. and Mrs., everyone joins in dancing around the "king and queen."

Jewish Wedding Heritage, Customs and Traditions, Including the Ketubah, Chupah, Breaking Glass

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*If you are looking for a great chuppah idea, read the article Wedding Quilt - Chuppah A Gift of Love"

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วันอังคารที่ 11 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2554

Only Sexy Things on Your Skin - The Importance of a Shawl in Your Wedding

Everybody tuned into the fashion industry knows the value of a great shawl. You can transform from a wallflower to an absolute stunner with this simple piece of clothing that you can wear over your shoulders and even your head. Together with its powers of enhancement, the shawl is also extremely adaptable and can be worn in the most formal of settings from high society parties to hanging out with friends on a Friday night, the shawl can be your best friend. Now that you're using it in your wedding, it's best to know just what an amazing article of clothing you're donning.

The first shawls were part of the traditional dress in Achaemenid Persia. They were also a big part of the traditional male garb of Kashmir, perhaps because of the strong Persian influence. After being woven in an extremely fine woolen twill, some were said to be fine enough as to fit through a ring. They could be made in one color or several colors, ornately woven or embroidered.

Women S Tallit

Shawls have many purposes and the most basic is to keep the wearer warm, hence shawls have become popular in Western countries. Another important function of the shawl is to complement the attire of the wearer. Some use it for symbolic reasons, like the Jewish tallit, which is used in prayer.

Silk shawls with fringes made in China were available in the first decade of the 19th century. They became popular in Europe and America. Apart from being important accessories for women's clothing they became a standard folk dress in some places including Germany, the Near East, parts of Latin America and Spain. They became a part of the Spanish gypsy dress and are known as gintanas. Their inclusion in the opera 'Carmen' immortalizes them in global culture.

Today Kashmiri shawls made from pashmina are among the most celebrated fashion and society items on the market.

Only Sexy Things on Your Skin - The Importance of a Shawl in Your Wedding

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วันอาทิตย์ที่ 9 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2554

Jewish Bride's Guide: Choosing a Wedding Tallit

Imagine if the groom had to choose the bride's wedding dress on his own. I have a hunch that in some cases she would take one look at his choice and call off the wedding. Yet it's often left up to the Jewish bride to choose a tallit for her fiance.

In the yeshiva world, where the custom is for the kallah or her parents to buy a tallis for the chassan, the choice is fairly straightforward. He'll want the age-old standard: a white wool tallit with black stripes (or white stripes if the groom is Sephardic). All she has to do is find a high quality tallit and figure out which size he needs. At most there will be a question of an ornate atara. (After all, the Talmud says a groom is to be considered like a king.)

Tallit

But what if he comes from a Modern Orthodox background - or isn't Orthodox at all? If that's the case, the bride has a lot of questions on her hands: Does he wear a small tallit or prefer it to drape over his back and down to the back of the knees? Would he like quiet blue stripes or a medley of colors? The issue of color is especially crucial because the bride also has to make sure the tallit doesn't clash with the chuppah or her dress. In fact, the tallit sets the tone for the look of the chuppah.

And if the tallit is used in shul, the wedding tallit she chooses will also have an impact for years to come. Clothes make the man, and it makes a world of difference if he later steps into shul wearing a nondescript tallit or an heirloom quality tallit.

Sephardic Jews have a beautiful custom of wrapping the bride and groom in a tallit during the ceremony. In the Orthodox world, a tallit is generally not used at the chuppah among Ashkenazim, although in Modern Orthodox circles it seems to be catching in.

The Jewish brides that come to me in search of a tallit for a modern groom seem to like handmade tallits, which come in a wide variety of colors and striping patterns. Traditionalists go for the classic white wool with black stripes. A middle-of-the-road option is white with blue stripes.

Another - more expensive - option is a hand-woven tallit. I recently had a Jewish bride who knew exactly what she wanted, so she went with a hand-woven tallit because it allowed her to choose a particular color and pattern. Since a tallit is a very personal gift that the groom will wear for years to come, it may be worth the price to have a special memory of his wedding ever time he wears it in shul.

No matter which wedding tallit she buys, I strongly recommend the bride add a tallit bag with embroidered lettering. A simple tallit bag can be had for as little as (and up to or more) and the lettering should cost only per letter. As long as he doesn't have a very long name (e.g. Jeremiah Eliezer Bloomenkranz) it won't cost much - and if he does, you can always use just his initials.

Jewish Bride's Guide: Choosing a Wedding Tallit

Ben Slobodkin is the owner and operator of Ben's Tallit Shop, an Israel-based webstore that sells tallits and chuppahs to customers around the world. The shop specializes in traditional prayer shawls, bar mitzvah tallits, wedding tallits, handmade tallits and hand-woven tallits in wool, cotton and silk.
Website: http://www.tallit-shop.com/.
Tallit or chuppah questions? Feel free to contact the author at benstallitshop [at] gmail [dot] com